'You owe me...': Mother demands 18-year-old daughter pay her back $700,000 for expensive upbringing

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    My mom invoiced me and my sister for the expenses of raising us.
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    Our household always revolved around money, even though my mom made more than enough money and we were not struggling by any means. She complained about every single thing she had to buy for us. Everything. Food, clothes, medical expenses, toys, laptops and phones, school costs,
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    everything. We always knew exactly how much we were costing her. We didn't dare ask for unnecessary things like leisure activities or expensive toys or hobby supplies. We started working very young and she mani lated and guilted us to give her all the money we earned to "pay off what we owed".
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    When I turned 18 she completely cut me off financially (but kindly offered to let me rent my bedroom out from her) and sent me an invoice of every cent I've ever cost her, totalling over $700 000. She billed me for Christmas and birthday presents. She even billed me for her medical expenses for the pregnancy and delivery, and wanted
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    me to backpay rent to live in the house from birth. She did the same to my sister 2 years later when she turned 18. We were supposed to pay her back over time starting the day we turned 18. Both of us were still dealing with a lot of internalized guilt from her constant
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    manipu tion so we actually did pay for a while. Aside from necessary expenses, our entire paychecks were going to her. We rented our bedrooms in her house and she separated her food, cleaning supplies, cookware and tableware, etc from ours and charged us to use them. She generously included the use of the household
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    appliances in our rent. It wasn't until I was 21 and my sister was 19 that enough people had told us this whole arrangement was unhinged that we finally snapped out of it. We moved out together and have stopped paying our mom, or even contacting her at all.
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    Wasps_are_bastards Fair enough. Now invoice her for life costs going forward since she birthed you without your consent.
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    mikelieman At a MINIMUM, send her the therapists' bills.
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    nicklepickle72 I'm glad you and your sister finally moved out. People like this amaze me. Why even have children?? You didn't ask to be brought into this world, you ‘owe' her nothing
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    Suitable_Comment_908 So when are you charging her for the fact you didnt approve your own birth and am now required to work untill d h?
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    DocSternau Just laugh at her and tell her: "Seems you opted for a very expensive hobby when you decided to have children!"
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    [deleted] I think she owes you every penny you paid her back. I would try and recover it through legal representation.
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    WaningRelevance OP. That's not a fight I'd win, my mom is a lawyer.
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    pnwcatman420 you have my sympathy one of my friends had a lawyer for a mother growing up and she penny pinched everything she did for him she didn't make him pay her back, but she did kick him out the day he turned 18 because her boyfriend now
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    useless unemployed husband didn't like him, he has been no contact with her for 31 years now, she has never met her grandchildren or his wife and regrets how she treated him now, but that is on her she chose her life just like your mom chose hers.
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    dee_stephens Your Mother is completely off her rocker.I am so glad y'all are away from her now. Where was your Father when all this craziness was happening?
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    WaningRelevance OP He fled the country as a fugitive when I was 5.
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    Faeraday I hope that's verifiable and not just something your mother told you.
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    WaningRelevance OP. Yep, I have been in a little bit of contact with him online before and found old news articles about him.
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    CoderJoe1 "Mom, show me the contract I signed before birth showing my agreement to pay you back for anything?"
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    [deleted] Right it seems she needs to be met with the same type of treatment, speak to a lawyer an find out how much roughly you could sue her for, damages to your mental health and emotional wellbeing, you did not ask to be born, nor did you ask for any presents or other
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    things she bought, go through the list and work out how much the therapy would be to put right the mental anguish she has caused you over the years, find out what your state says she should provide you with for the 18 years, and find out where you stand exactly then present a united front to her
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    with a parcel of documents for her to digest at her leisure. I would put money on the fact it could be over the million dollar mark, watch her face fold an tell her to have a nice life we will call it even, every time she has said things like that she has taken a toll on your health, an
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    within the law she could be made to pay, the last thing she would expect is that. I wish you both a lovely life the h I away from her negative cop
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    WaningRelevance OP We don't have enough money to sue and she knows that. She's a lawyer, I can't imagine a world where we'd win this kind of lawsuit against her.
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    tuppence07 You don't owe her anything for raising you. It was NOT your choice to be born, she has to sk it up and realise that. Children do NOT owe their parents for their childhood.
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    Pleasant-Squirrel220 Remember you and your sister will be picking the nursing home
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    WaningRelevance OP I'm not sure that's true, my mom is doing fine financially and will most likely be able to pay for her own nursing home. Unless she gets dementia or something before she needs physical help she'll be the one picking where she goes.

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